Editor’s note: Voices is an occasional series in which guest writers express their feelings in the wake of the presidential election and what many perceive to be a drastic change in course for America, and not for the better.
By LIN LOFLEY
OK, so I think it’s officially time for me to get a grip. Y’all do what you think you need to do, but the bad feelings I have harbored since Election Night finally popped out last night, and getting that stuff off my chest didn’t make me feel better.
In dealing with a troll on a Facebook thread, the discussion being what many of us see as clear Russian interference in the election, I finally had it up to my teeth with the guy. I told him I was tired of it, and of him.
And I told him of my hope that when Obamacare is repealed, that he contract a slow, inoperable form of cancer.
And with that, I fell to his level of douchebaggery, and I didn’t like it.
There were many levels to my failure, not least of which being I ended up on the level of the troll. Of course, his fellow trolls brayed in pain at such an insult. (Bite me, I thought.)
And the message thread wasn’t my own. So a guy I like and even admire wound up pulling down the entire thread. I was glad, but I felt bad at him having do that.
My grasp on civility has become more tenuous since the election. Here are a couple of examples:
- I’ve never been one who flips the bird in traffic — an old newspaper guy once mentioned that when he moved to Texas the first thing he did was stop gesturing at people in traffic, which seems like a good idea — but since Nov. 8, I have more frequently had to grip the wheel tightly and stare (glare) straight ahead in traffic when someone has driven poorly.
- I have repeatedly had to bite my lip when people say they’ll be glad when Obamacare is gone, but they want to make it perfectly clear to their representatives that the Affordable Care Act should not be touched. I despair at the stupidity of people who voted for people who could come back to harm them and their families.
But there it is.
We’re just in a strange place now. We have been divided by the election, and we just want to know who we’re dealing with, something that’s often impossible to ascertain. Outside of the trolls, we don’t know anymore who voted for the president-elect. Many are wisely keeping it to themselves, but I want to know. A year from now, I’ll be surprised if we see anybody, troll or not, proclaiming their pride in what we did on Election Day.
I don’t blame people for hiding, but I’d like to know who they are anyway — so I can know exactly who it is I should despise.
Knowing that 3 million more of us voted for Hillary than did the man the Russians selected makes me feel better, but alas, I’m also distrustful of my fellow citizens.
I’ll try to get a grip. You do what you need to do.Would you like to add your voice to the Voices series? My contact information is listed under the About Me link at the top of this page.